Workplace romances can succeed, but be ready for hurdles
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I WAITED for Anna as she stumbled down my driveway in the early hours after that night out.
Clutching her fire-engine red high heels in one hand like a life raft, she tried to compensate for her intoxication by walking like an astronaut.
Anna was a staff member at work and we were about to become secretly involved.
Before we kissed, she looked at me with a devilish smile of relief and excitement and whispered proudly, "We are breaking the rules."
Only a week earlier my boss had sent me the text message: "You're a great manager but don't screw the crew, it's unprofessional".
Was it unprofessional? We spend most of our lives at work. Is it possible to find romance in the workplace and keep it professional?
Our boss's attempt to deter us was about as effective as trying to slam a revolving door.
His text, however, was for a reason.
Workplace relationships can cause nepotism, jealously among work colleagues and the possibility of a sexual harassment lawsuit.
Some companies even go to the extent of writing strict policies that forbid workplace relationships.
Our relationship was especially difficult because it was an employee/supervisor relationship. This had caused its own share of problems.
We did our best to keep it under wraps but the staff were quick to find out, and no matter how hard Anna worked or how equally I treated the staff, they always believed I was treating Anna better.
This then started to cause stress on our relationship. We couldn't go on like this.
Anna and I decided for the sake of our relationship, she would transfer to another department.
My boss was happier for it and we didn't have to go to the trouble of hiding it.
The workplace is an easy place to meet that someone special; you already have something in common and are spending most of your time together.
The relationship can work but you have to be prepared to deal with the hurdles that come with them.
Looking at options like a transfer to a different department or maybe keeping the romance a secret (if possible), can make sure that you happily in love and at work.
After all, we don't decide who we are going to fall in love with, but we can decide what we are going to do when we do.