Maleny man Scott Corkin celebrates with his daughter Aimee Corkin and son Robert on Aimee's 18th birthday.
Maleny man Scott Corkin celebrates with his daughter Aimee Corkin and son Robert on Aimee's 18th birthday. Contributed

Widower reveals struggles in wake of wife's death

UNEXPECTED moments like a favourite song or a fishing reference are harder for widower Scott Corkin to handle than the anniversary of his wife's death.

Mr Corkin marked two years on Tuesday since bile duct cancer claimed the woman he met when they attended Maleny State School together.

Their romance blossomed when they were about 18.

Michelle Corkin was 40 when she died.

 

Maleny mother Michelle Corkin died from bile duct cancer aged 40. Photo Contributed
Maleny mother Michelle Corkin died from bile duct cancer aged 40. Photo Contributed Photo Contributed

Aware of her terminal illness, she urged her family and the wider community to spend as much time as possible with loved ones.

She also encouraged people to enjoy the beauty of the world around them.

"Material things are not as important in this life as spending quality time with the ones you love," she wrote.

Mr Corkin said his children Robert, 21, and Aimee, 18, had probably taken their mother's words on board more than anybody.

Robert and his partner are next month due to have their first child, Mr Corkin's first grandchild.

Aimee has furthered her lifelong association with horses by taking up a contract mustering role in the Northern Territory.

"Your whole point-of-view on life changes when you lose a loved one," Mr Corkin said.

"I probably have a bit more time for people now."

He quit his mining industry role to be able to spend more time in Maleny.

"That (mining) just became irrelevant to me very quickly."

Support from his own and his wife's extended families has been a great help.

Mr Corkin said the second year had more difficult emotionally than the first year.

"In the first year, you keep expecting her to walk back through the door."

That has faded with the realisation of his loss.

"Today (Tuesday) is not so hard because you know it is coming and you can prepare for it.

"It is the unexpected moments (that are hard).

"It might be a song."

 

Enjoying their last fishing trip together as a family are (from left) Aimee, Robert, Michelle and Scott Corkin. Michelle succumbed to bile duct cancer about a month after the trip. Photo Contributed
Enjoying their last fishing trip together as a family are (from left) Aimee, Robert, Michelle and Scott Corkin. Michelle succumbed to bile duct cancer about a month after the trip. Photo Contributed Photo Contributed

Fishing was one of Mrs Corkin's favourite past times.

"That might be harder- just to go fishing," Mr Corkin said.

He has also gained strength from a group of widows and widowers.

Young Widows and Widowers Support Group has been based in Brisbane since 1991 but could soon expand to the Sunshine Coast.

Co-ordinator Jo Langford said the group was run by widowed people, for widowed people.

Mrs Langford said a $2000 Sunshine Coast Council grant given earlier this year would be put towards establishing a Coast base.

"We've noticed in the past couple of years we have had a lot of people come to us from the Sunshine Coast," Mrs Langford said.

"We are going to look for a place to hold some regular meetings."

She said the group accommodated people aged between 20 and about 60.

"We are fairly open about that.

"The majority of our members would be in their 30s and 40s."

Members meet monthly to discuss issues as well as socialise with people who have experienced loss.

"It is not for everybody but we are hoping to get the word out," Mrs Langford said.

She said the group planned to hold at least two events on the Coast before the end of the year.

Mr Corkin said the group's help had been amazing.

"I cannot say enough for them," Mr Corkin said.

For more information about the support group call Mrs Langford on 0419 170 183.



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