GENTLE PARENTING: Kim Dalagaris does not smack or yell at her two children Annabelle, two, and Daniel, 10 months.
GENTLE PARENTING: Kim Dalagaris does not smack or yell at her two children Annabelle, two, and Daniel, 10 months. Eliza Wheeler

WATERCOOLER: No need to smack your kids, just talk to them

TOOGOOM mum Kim Dalagaris does not smack or yell at her kids, instead she gets on their level and disciplines them through conversation.

The mother-of-two understands every parental journey is different, but said the approach known as 'gentle parenting' was best for her.

"For me it's about respecting your kids from the minute they're born and treating them with understanding and compassion," Kim said.

"As they grow up through difficult stages like tantrums and teething, for me it's really about putting ourselves in their shoes, trying to understand their behaviour and how I can help them to work through different things."
 

When is the right time to smack your child?

This poll ended on 11 May 2016.

Current Results

It's never OK. All you teach them is the wrong way to react

25%

Rarely, but sometimes it's needed to punish them for doing something dangerous

29%

When necessary: I was smacked when I did the wrong thing, and I turned out fine.

45%

This is not a scientific poll. The results reflect only the opinions of those who chose to participate.

When Kim's children; two-year-old Annabelle and 10-month-old Daniel misbehave or throw a tantrum, Kim stays calm by breathing deeply and remembering that her children are still learning.

She then tries to get her children to tell her why they are upset.

"Sometimes it is difficult," she said. "Sometimes you do just want to yell and say 'that's not okay' because I am human, but my daughter responds better if I take the time to sit down and say 'I can see that you're frustrated, tell me what's bothering you'.

"She understands that way."

She said she had never been in a situation where she felt the need to smack her children.

"There's never been a time when I thought that would make the situation better," she said.
 

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The 27-year-old is part of a group of about 100 Fraser Coast mums who also take a gentle parenting approach.

The group connects through a Facebook page and has regular meetings.

"It's all about supporting each other, there are no negative comments or any judgment," Kim said.

"(Support) is so important for new mums because it can be a really tough time sometimes."



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