Tiffany calls on friends to care
By SAM BENGERsamb@gladstoneobserver.com.au
IN the past seven months Tiffany Brumpton has lost three friends to suicide.
At 22, Tiffany has cried enough tears and spent enough hours asking why it had come to this. She's decided it's time to break the silence.
"I don't want to offend anyone, especially families of people who have suicided, but I'm really concerned and I don't want to lose any more friends,'' she said.
Tiffany said she wanted to bring the issue into the open to encourage people to discuss their feelings and realise it was OK to be depressed about things and to seek help.
"If people spoke about it a bit more frequently then maybe they'd realise they're not the only ones ? especially for guys, if they knew others felt the same they wouldn't feel so alone,'' she said.
Tiffany described suicide as having a "rippling effect''.
"The initial shock and devastation is felt by the family and close friends of the person, but then it's the friends' families and the workmates of the person and their sporting clubs and associations who feel it ? suicide affects the whole community,'' she said.
She said she hoped by speaking out about suicide, people would be encouraged to find someone to talk to about their problems.
"Just telling one person can make a whole lot of difference ? the other person is going to be more rational and think how they can cheer the person up or get them help,'' she said.
Friends Sarah Fuller and Stacy Boyd agreed, saying that in order to prevent suicide, people needed to talk about it at schools and at homes and find ways to get people to open up.
"People need to realise that it (suicide) doesn't solve anything, it just means that everyone else has to try to live with it ? but we'll never understand why and we'll never get our heads around it,'' Stacy said.
Sarah encouraged people to take small steps to overcome obstacles.
"They get it in their head that suicide is the only option left, but if they just stop and think about it and wait another day, things will look better,'' she said.