Partners despair at rising infidelity
By DAVINA ILLINGnewsroom@gladstoneobserver.com.au
INFIDELITY is pushing some Gladstone couples to the brink. Lifeline Gladstone services coordinator Robyn Liddell said feelings of betrayal, anger, guilt and grief sometimes proved too much for some, causing them to consider taking their own lives.
'The grief and anger (as the result of an affair) can be intense,' Ms Liddell said.
While many turn to counselling to help deal with the emotional aftermath of infidelity,'we do get calls from people who are suicidal over this'.
A recent survey out of the United States suggests married women are cheating almost as much as married men ? a staggering 40 per cent of women and 50 per cent of men.
Gladstone psychologist Paul Grant said while it was difficult to gauge the prevalence of infidelity among Gladstone couples, almost as many men as women were seeking counselling to cope with the emotional turmoil.
He said it was more common for people to attempt to work through the issues rather than give up straight away. ' The success rate of those does vary. Not all couples who see us are successful,' Mr Grant said.
He said it was more likely for the betrayed partner to seek help.
Ms Liddell said even affairs that went undetected had the potential to unravel relationships.
'It is commonly understood that a lot of marital affairs go unnoticed, however, this can also destroy intimacy in a relationship,' she said.
'Extra marital affairs always cause difficulty in a relationship.
'While many might survive such a crisis, for many more it can spell a death sentence to the relationship.'