Opinion

Truth of the matter is, lying can be hurtful

TRUST - for such an integral part of every single relationship we have, it can be surprisingly elusive and disappointingly easy to misplace.

Some are dreadfully flippant, wasteful even, with others' trust.

And they take it for granted that a white lie, a not-quite-truth, or withholding information will be understood - or even never found out.

But as is the case with most things, mistruths do get found out in the end.

And even if it doesn't spell an end, it's a certainty that things can never be the same.

Some people show their colours from the outset. They are caught lying or playing with the truth by someone who knows better.

They show the tell-tale inconsistencies in their stories or their body language is a dead giveaway.

But the real casualties of mislaid truths come from those you least expect.

A lie from someone you expect better of is a cruel and often devastating blow.

It's undermining. It's hurtful.We all go through life having, at one time or other, been at the butt-end of a lie.

We have been the scapegoat, the sacrificial lamb, the betrayed and thrown under the proverbial bus.

And we have all felt the smack - the sting of feeling cheated, betrayed and then left wondering whether or not it's worth reinvesting in that person and the relationship thereof.

When lied to, we comfort ourselves (and others) by saying things like Karma is a bitch, they'll get their come-uppance and the truth comes out in the end.

But what's really sad, is that lies can erode the faith and general belief people have in the good of others.

And for some, there is just no going back.

There is no excuse for lying. It speaks volume of character - or the evident lack thereof.

And where relationships are concerned - be they professional, community related, with a spouse, a family member, associates or someone you've never met - there is no more steadfast a foundation than that of trust.

Erode that at your peril.

Because perilous is the association with those who are cavalier with the truth.

Topics:  meredith papavasiliou, opinion, trust




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