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Boost happiness by walking away from toxic emotions

SOME of life's lessons are harder won than others. Most reasonable people with a degree of rationality can usually identify emotional toxicity when they happen upon it.

It's corrosive. It's degenerative. It's soul-destroying. Yet in spite of this, in spite of the hurt it brings, we go back for more.

We decide it's us, not them. We excuse. We make apology. We rationalise. We condone.

All with the intrinsic - if only subconscious - knowledge that it is not right and we are deserving of more - of better.

If there is an ailment or something of toxicity encumbering us physically, we seek attention for it. We fill a prescription, we have it dealt with.

If it is an environmental factor we rid ourselves of it. It is identified, categorised, treated, forgotten.

That is therapy. In the physical manifestation, it is cut and dried.

So why then does the same not apply to the kind of toxicity that burdens us emotionally and mentally?

So where we have some control, where we have the capacity to shape, we should make the very most of it.

Certainly, this is a toxicity which is not as tangible. Nor can it be as objectively diagnosed.

It is subjective and its approach can be without precedent. But once we have identified it, once we feel its presence, the treatment is principally the same.

We have thrust upon us many pressures and burdens which are beyond our circle of control and influence.

Yes, we can control our reaction to such things, but we can do little about them being present in the first place.

So where we have some control, where we have the capacity to shape, we should make the very most of it.

Walk away. Get rid of whatever weighs you down.

In every facet of life toxicity is as much a hindrance as an unnecessary burden.

All of a sudden, the solution is obvious. Nothing so bad for you is necessary for a good and happy life.

Topics:  meredith papavasiliou, opinion, relationships




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